Never Have I Ever – Katie Heaney


“I’ve been single for my entire life. Not one boyfriend. Not one short-term dating situation. Not one person with whom I regularly hung out and kissed on the face.”

So begins Katie Heaney’s memoir of her years spent looking for love, but never quite finding it. By age 25, equipped with a college degree, a load of friends, and a happy family life, she still has never had a boyfriend … and she’s barely even been on a second date.

Throughout this laugh-out-loud funny book, you will meet Katie’s loyal group of girlfriends, including flirtatious and outgoing Rylee, the wild child to Katie’s shrinking violet, as well as a whole roster of Katie’s ill-fated crushes. And you will get to know Katie herself — a smart, modern heroine relaying truths about everything from the subtleties of a Facebook message exchange to the fact that “Everybody who works in a coffee shop is at least a little bit hot.”

Funny, relatable, and inspiring, this is a memoir for anyone who has ever struggled to find love, but has also had a lot of fun in the process.


It has been far, far too long since I’ve last updated. Whoops. I’ve been reading, but not writing as many reviews lately. I sometimes feel odd reviewing sequels (by themselves) and don’t really see the point with novellas or companion books. But here’s a review right now!

I know the premise of this book SEEMS shallow. And okay, yes it is. But it’s wholly entertaining and a really interesting look her story, which is increasingly rare but not unrelatable. The book read as though Heaney were confiding in one of her friends of her relationship status, which made it light and fun.

I actually enjoyed this book! Katie is funny! And I actually understand her story. It resonated with me. There are so many times when options EXIST, and it’s totally possible for something to happen, but that’s no reason to actually go through and start dating people.

If you think about it, there are so many factors that have to fall into place for relationships to work out. First, there has to be mutual attraction. Then the time and location have to be right. Then you have to communicate with each other. And you have to take a chance. More often than not, the people you like are not the people who like you (and vice versa).

I understood where Heaney was coming from in a lot of different aspects. Some people are lighthouses. Some people are magnetic. Others just can’t seem to get there. It was interesting seeing from her perspective, although I’d love to see where she ends up in a couple years. Will she feel differently if she ever falls in love? Well, I guess only time (and experience) will tell.

Related (Reading)

  • The 40-Year Old Virgin (2005)
  • Why Men Love B*****s – Sherry Argov
  • Books about independent women who don’t need men

Rating: 4/5 



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